First option, you pay a sex worker (like a freelancer in the night club, girl in the massage parlor, street hooker, bar girl or escort). The advantage of that is that it’s quick and convenient, but it costs money.
Second option, you go out and try to meet girls in the “regular” nightlife spots, like bars and clubs. The advantage of that is that it can be a lot of fun if you like drinking and partying anyway, but the disadvantage is that you never really know if the girl you’re hitting on really likes you or is actually working as a freelancer – and wouldn’t tell you until you’ve bought her a few drinks and finally ask her to join you to your hotel.
Third option, you flirt with girls in everyday life situations, like with the cute waitress in the restaurant, the smart chick in the Indomaret or the hot lady in the shopping mall. The advantage of that is that she probably won’t be asking for money down the road, but the disadvantage is that it’s very time consuming as you will get a lot of rejections (most Indonesian girls are quite shy in public, don’t forget that this is a muslim country after all).
And the fourth option, you use an online dating site to arrange meetings with Indonesian girls. The advantage of that is that it’s convenient because you don’t even need to leave your hotel room, and the disadvantage is, well, there aren’t really any disadvantages – because all of the girls on the dating sites have signed up for one reason: To meet a nice foreigner.
There are many reasons why the dating sites in Indonesia have become so popular – the basic functions are free, it’s stress free and convenient, you know that the girls are “normal” means not working as prostitutes, and they are much easier to talk to over the phone or computer than in the real world where they always feel being observed.
The only problem really is to decide which site to sign up for, because there are always appearing new sites every year – but the most established ones are still far ahead in terms of numbers of users, and it doesn’t look like this is going to change in the near future:
The biggest dating site in Indonesia with more than 1 million Indonesian ladies. No matter if you login in the morning, afternoon or late at night – you will always find a few thousand girls online and ready to start talking to you. Just check out the profile pics of the girls, as well as their descriptions and bio, and if you like what you see, you can chat with her and after a while ask her if she would like to meet up for a coffee at Starbucks, dinner in the mall or a movie in the cinema (or in your hotel room?).
This site belongs to Cupid Media as well, which is the biggest dating site network in the world. The great thing about it is they have not only a section with thousands of Indonesian women, but also ladies from all other Asian countries – so if you are planning to visit places like Thailand, Cambodia or Vietnam on the same trip, then this will be the best site to use. Like all other sites mentioned here it’s free to sign up and browse through the members.
The concept of Seeking Arrangement is different from the other dating sites: On this site you will find girls who are looking for a (financial) caretaker. Most of these so called “sugar girls” are quite attractive, but it might not be for everyone as they have quite high expectations, in other words the “arrangement” would usually involve that you support them with a few thousand dollars each month so that they will stay with you and sweeten your time. If money isn’t a big issue for you then give it a try, but otherwise I’d recommend you to stick with Indonesian Cupid as it’s the only site where you can meet Indonesian girls who don’t ask for money.